Why are we ashamed of staying single?
In a world where romance is injected in pretty much everything from novels and movies to pop songs and video games, the thought of staying single can terrify us. Why would someone stay single after all? Isn’t life meant to be lived happily ever after?
While I agree that to feel loved is indeed pleasurable, I disagree with our rush to find love.
Great and meaningful relationships, those that build you up and make you happier, take time to develop and flourish. Shallow relationships, those that drain your energy (and wallet), are the easiest to start and the quickest to end.
And because of that, a lot of us choose to stay single.
But contrary to what society wants us to believe, staying single has nothing to say about you. And It never means that you lack options to choose from. Don’t feel pressured to prove that wrong by settling for anyone who comes in your way.
Being single is a choice you can make. And if you already made it, I congratulate you 😀
Why? Because being single is so liberating!
You don’t have to worry about the drama that comes with having someone who tracks your every move better than your phone’s GPS.
You don’t have to spend hours worrying about why your partner doesn’t love you anymore when the poor guy/girl is just having a bad day.
You don’t have to cancel an activity that you enjoy just because your partner finds it boring.
There’s no limit to what you can do. If you want to travel the world, no one can stop you or oblige you to stay. The world is yours to take and see.
You’re not dependent on anyone but yourself to feel good. You don’t have to find excuses to why you
When you’re single, all you have is yourself. You date yourself. You take care of it. You learn to not depend on anyone but yourself.
When you choose to be single, your mind turns all its focus toward other aspects of your life that need your attention the most: your health, your family, your friends, your career, and your passions.
And when you focus on improving your life, you become more interesting, confident and independent. And guess what? All these traits are attractive to the opposite sex!
I’m not saying that being in a relationship is bad and a waste of time. It can be fulfilling if you find the right person, but it certainly won’t make you happier than you are right now.
Happiness is something you create for yourself. No one in this world can give it to you, not even your girlfriend/boyfriend. Forget about all the crappy romantic shit out there that are trying to sell you this idea.
Live your single life and make the most out of the freedom it offers you. Being single gives you the freedom to pursue your dreams and learn more about yourself without worrying about pleasing another person.
It’s only when you become a happy and independent free bird that fate will unite you with a cute girl or guy who will sweep you off your feet and add
Tomorrow is Valentine’s day. And while couples are saving money for a present, worrying about what they need to wear, what restaurant they will eat at, or questioning whether they truly love each other in the first place or not, I take the pleasure to end this post by wishing a Happy Valentine’s day to all the single souls out there ❤